How do we know for a surety that we are truly worthy of what we say we want? Let’s delve into it by means of relationships, picture this:
A woman desires to have a man that treats her like a queen, one that loves, honors, respects, is truthful with her, can be trusted to do what is in her highest good at all times. And she dreams and fantasizes about this love and this union as her greatest wish-fulfillment of how this man is loyal to her and how wonderful she would feel in a union with him.
. . . BUT WAIT A MINUTE . . . HOLD UP!
She is none of those things to herself, therefore she cannot be any of that for someone else because we are, our own frame of reference. If I cannot be honest with myself, I equally cannot be honest with you,
If I am not loyal to myself, I cannot be loyal to you,
If I am not my own wish fulfillment, I cannot be your wish-fulfillment,
If I cannot do what is in my own highest good, I cannot do what is your highest good,
If I cannot treat myself as a queen, then I cannot treat you like a king,
If I am not in a wonderful union with myself, I cannot be in a wonderful union with you
If I do not have joy in the relationship with myself, I cannot have joy in a relationship with you,
If I am not kind to myself, I cannot be kind to you,
If I am not truthful with myself, I cannot be truthful with you,
If I do not like myself, I cannot like you,
If I cannot forgive myself, I cannot forgive you,
If I am not compassionate with myself, I cannot be compassionate with you,
If I violate my own body, I will violate your body.
If I am sexually perverted, I will seek to sexually pervert you.
If I am not honest about my own truth, I will do everything to keep you from being honest about yours.
If I cross my own Will, I’m going to force you to cross and violate your Will for my agendas.
If I betray and sacrifice myself, I will betray and sacrifice you too.
If I don’t care about my health, I cannot care about your health.
If I have poor hygiene, I will defile your hygiene.
If I wear 5-day old filthy socks, I would take offense to you wearing clean socks – because you shine the light on me.
If I do not nurture myself, I cannot nurture you, in addition, I will resent your self-nurturing and the attention you give yourself, and will do everything I can to sabotage you out of jealously and envy.
The only people that want from others what they are not willing to offer are jealous hearted envious ones, and believe me, the only reason they want to be in your life is to destroy you. Because the truth of the matter is that, they actually do like you, they like you more than they like themselves – which creates a serious dichotomy for them and the only way for them to deal with the fact, that they really want to be you and not themselves, it is to convince themselves that they hate you – but in reality, they hate themselves and watching you “like yourself” reminds them of that. But carry on anyway – and don’t miss a beat of being comfortable in your skin, teach through example!
I can only treat you the way I treat myself because the relationship with myself is my ONLY frame of reference for relationships, I can only offer you what I am, where I am in my consciousness – not what I delude myself into believing I can convince you that I am – that’s Trickster Energy (7 of Swords Bullshit).
That being said, why would one sit at someone’s table asking, seeking, and expecting a higher level of quality and standards, that they themselves do not live by in their own personal lives? The only thing these misguided people can bring to you is what is already going on in their lives – they can only defile you, drain your life force and bring you low. Which is the tactic they use to try to feel better about themselves, but it doesn’t work.
If they are not their own beacon of light first and foremost, the only thing they can offer another is to extinguish your light to fill a void in themselves – a void that cannot be filled via another person. Which ultimately makes them a succubus or incubus, you cannot give someone your life force and retain access to The Light. Our light is to be honored by helping others connect to their own light – not to allow them to drain us dry – because they refuse to look in the mirror at themselves and be honest about what they see and how they feel about it – i.e They Refuse To Do The Shadow Work.
Anyone that tells you that they want your energy is nothing more than a VAMPIRE, the word Vampire is a pretty word for PARASITE – a parasite is an organism that does not have its own energy source they must feed off of others. Entities that desire to suck the very life out of you then move on to the next energy source, under the guise of “love” and “wish-fulfillment”.
How can you expect someone to be your wish-fulfillment but you are not, nor can you be their wish-fulfillment? That’s ridiculous, but the bigger question is why are you wishing? Why not just simply be what you say you want in others and allow the forces of providence to work in your favor? – because after all, if you put it out. It will return, RIGHT?
Only vampires i.e. parasites wish for things that they are incapable of offering to others.
The moral of the story: Do not allow anyone in your energy field that is not already living a high-quality life that matches your time-proven standards. These wayward ones will tell you they will change “FOR YOU” If someone tells you they will change for you – RUN!
Why would someone change for you and NOT for themselves – WHY? What is the real agenda?
Why would one choose to be in a relationship with someone that is not good to themselves? Is it because you believe they can or will treat you better than they treat themselves? Or that you can “fix” them?
If this dynamic resonates with you (I’m sure it does in some way) if this is an existing relationship or a new one that you are considering – WALK AWAY! Do yourself a favor and allow Karma to “fix” them, She’s a badass she can fix things that we can’t, walk away, go nurture yourself, and let it be what it be – and don’t look back, you have not lost anything here, but by walking away you do save yourself and your bloodline lifetimes of karmic debt!
Stay away from people that are not worthy of your time and energy – do not cast your pearls to the swine.
